Welcome to Traces Space...For better or worse, in sickness and in health until death do us part...the vow. What is this thing that we signed up for? Don't be frightened folks...this space isn't full of negativity here...I just feel like we enter into marriage full of expectations that, well, read on...
I think often about the day I married Mike...It was full of excitement and a whole lot of emotion. We were both very young and very immature. All we knew was that we wanted the promise of a lifetime, and in the midst of that promise I am sure we did not anticipate the "life" that would come our way.
We both have very needy personalities, and in this almost thirty year ride those personalities have some times caused conflict. The first conflict involved the game of Monopoly. Mike is a "real" rule player, there is no room for adjustments to the rules...they are what they are. Now I am not quite wired that way, I am all about playing games by the rules that have been established by the game players, and the one particular rule that I always played by in this game was when you landed on free parking you got all of the money in the middle of the board. This is not, I repeat, not a rule in monopoly. Hence forth a very heated debate. How stupid, we were really fighting about Monopoly.
Over the years we have had a lot of "heated" debates, you know from finances, children to whether or not it is a good idea to buy bass guitars or shoes...But what ever the debate may have been over or how heated it became we somehow have been able to get over it. I don't believe there has been something said in the heat of anger that couldn't be worked out between us.
I will be the first person to say that its not perfect and thank YOU Jesus its not. See I believe just as in our own personal character building, the marriage life building develops character by how you live through the "life" that comes your way. We are responsible for our response, and we can either let the stuff control us or look at the stuff see if we can fix it, or just live through it and when its over simply say, "whew".
I love this man with every part of my being. I also believe that his being in my life was of divine appointment. My life was spinning out of control and this young caring man looked beyond the garbage in my heart and and loved me anyway. I have not always been kind, I have been controlling, down right ugly, but he loves me anyway.
We have faced being broke, death, illness, the stuff that most folks do and in the midst of all of that we have not only found a stronger willingness to keep the vow, but to make new ones. To dedicate our lives to serving God not just as individuals but as a couple.
Is this what we signed up for? At the beginning, no. We had no idea, again all we knew was the excitement of being in love and well not really worrying about anything else. But now it is and so much more. The promise of a lifetime is now filled with joy, hope and most of all love.
Ruth 1:16 Don’t urge me to leave you or to turn back from you. Where you go I will go, and where you stay I will stay. Your people will be my people and your God my God. 17 Where you die I will die, and there I will be buried. May the Lord deal with me, be it ever so severely, if even death separates you and me.”
Yes...Where he goes I will go...His God will be mine...
So, for better or worse and all that goes a long with it.
See you soon
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